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Velinda Miller — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 14:38:12 -0000

BRAVO! BRAVO! I am with you. No one can read minds, so lay your cards on the table and lets work it out. If it can't be worked out, shake hands, cry tears and move on baby, move on.

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Guest — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 12:15:30 -0000

@ Cali chick who thinks her man is gay. Trust your gut, it will never steer you wrong. I went through a similar situation a few weeks ago. I ask any man I date straight up, do you or have you ever had sexual relations with a man. My intent is to provide an open dialogue where you dont feel like you have to lie to me. This guy still chose to be deceptive, but the truth came out slowly. You cant trust people these days, people just dont care....Always TRUST YOUR GUT.

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Velinda Miller — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 10:38:12 -0000

BRAVO! BRAVO! I am with you. No one can read minds, so lay your cards on the table and lets work it out. If it can't be worked out, shake hands, cry tears and move on baby, move on.

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Guest — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 08:15:30 -0000

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Phenomenal — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 01:03:35 -0000

Co-sign! If I don't get any for 3 days, I start giving the side-eye (j/k)!

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Amy is here — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 00:12:35 -0000

This is true glamah! You have to get to a point where you trust your own judgment

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glamah — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 00:10:23 -0000

I always believe in followinf that nagging feeling in your gut. Intuition doesnt lie.

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Jaycee — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 23:53:06 -0000

Wow, ya'll went all in today. I have only had to be Junior Detective once, but I never will again. Next time I'll see it coming and cut it off at the pass.

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Reads4Pleasure — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 21:49:44 -0000

no you didn't say "ride the rainbow"! I.am.weak!

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Geoff — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 21:39:58 -0000

People started to take these comments real personally. To Raine - "history of creep" is nuff said. Tanya - whether he's gay or not, you are obviously unhappy. Nothing legal keeping you there, get out.

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Phenomenal — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 21:03:35 -0000

Co-sign! If I don't get any for 3 days, I start giving the side-eye (j/k)!

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AngelaM — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:21:00 -0000

Heard of that expression, having your cake and eating it too? <--- made up for men

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JaneknowsJane — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:18:22 -0000

what is with the cheating anyway? If you want out, just go.

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Amy is here — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:12:35 -0000

This is true glamah! You have to get to a point where you trust your own judgment

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glamah — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:10:23 -0000

I always believe in followinf that nagging feeling in your gut. Intuition doesnt lie.

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Troy — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 20:03:57 -0000

So now I'm a little boy for calling a woman out? I'm not saying a man should cheat. I'm saying there are things a woman can do to make him less likely to chat.

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Jaycee — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:53:06 -0000

Wow, ya'll went all in today. I have only had to be Junior Detective once, but I never will again. Next time I'll see it coming and cut it off at the pass.

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SBChiTownChick — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:51:37 -0000

OKAY! Let me set my bouge aside for a second - Yes - bruthas gone all undercover with the cheating, we gotta fight fire with fire. Oh I'm supposed to fall back while you are running around the country with random broad? not gonna happen. Best bet, don't do anything to make me suspicious. Better yet - DON'T CHEAT! I will check your cell phone, trust and believe.

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true2me — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:39:28 -0000

Im going to tell yall the only way I was goin to find out my man of 2 years was cheating..I CHECKED THE INFO. I would have NEVER known had i not checked him out. How could I have, the girl was living in Cali (im on the east coast)

Just like the Ashanti song, he left the sidekick on the nightstand and I read everything he did and everything he said.

I remember prior to that I specifically asked him who the girl was and why she always contacted him. He said "Oh she lives in cali..someone i met in the military". He got a DVD in the mail that said Happy 6 mos and again lied and said that was to 6 months of good friendship. The lies are too many to go on. I was convinced I was being paranoid and that it was damaging our relationship..so I fell back.

Only when I saw the emails and letters and naked pics did I find the truth. I called her and we had a long nice talk about his indescretions.

Sometimes you gotta be That chick..FTW on that one....

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The Lady — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:38:33 -0000

It's important to remember that just as you wouldn't hold onto an investment that was rapidly losing value (think real estate or stock market tanking quicker than I type this sentence), you shouldn't hold onto a relationship that's toxic, rapidly losing value or has you acting COMPLETELY out of character. I know that some women dream of the ring and the dress, and to them I say buy yourself a beautiful dress and a ring. Marriage is about so much more than a ring and dress, and any woman in the position of these 2 women are better off with their self esteem/self respect, than a ring you eventually have made into earrings and a dress that collects dust in your basement. Don't be the investor who holds onto a stock that's in freefall waiting on it to rebound, and in the end all you have to show for it are losses and regret. Sell the stock (kick homie to the crub) and use what you have left to invest in your next relationship or yourself.

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Guest — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:38:16 -0000

First time here. TMCY responded with some sanity, Ojo is a little off, SBM kinda radical and all about the "smashing", OneChele LOL with the "you can't ride the rainbow and ride me"

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natural nubian — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:36:37 -0000

troy, u suspect. your last sentence ("he's going to go ahead and make that decision")...exactly, the man is CHOOSING to dip out on his girl. so your idea of any woman pushing a man to cheat is, to be frank, juvenile. are you not in contol of your own actions? real men just end it and move on. lil boys still like to keep their toys close by while they indicisively try to stay entertained by both [women].

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OneChele — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:34:17 -0000

Thank you UdontKnow and thank your bougie girlfriend.

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OneChele — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:32:49 -0000

Oh Riley, BougieLand is not perfect... we just aspire to be. ;)

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Troy — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:31:32 -0000

Wow that's harsh.